Hes dating his ex
I went through his photos and I saw a screenshot of him talking to his ex. What should I do in that situation? Should I have been okay with it? He also tells me anytime something with my ex comes up squash it or any guy. I caught my boyfriend hiding the fact that he still talks to his ex. Usually id be okay with that but he had her saved as dave on snapchat and would message her all the time right in front of my face. When i caught him he lied about it and said it was daves girlfriend.
But once i got more proof he just laughed at me and later admitted to it. Hes also deleted messages from other girls in the past. I feel like im stupid for still believing that hes loyal. The paSt is the past and it should be left there. Then she tries to contact him? Im in your life now. I went on a first date for dinner with a man I had only known a short time. He spoke almost non-stop while I politely listened. Our food came and he was now into all the "talents" she had, awards she won, things they did, places they went Are you nauseous yet??
Frankly, I had reached the point of disbelief At a certain point, mid-meal I cleared my throat and said, "Excuse me for a moment, please? I couldn't have thought of anything to say to him, so why would I bother? Never heard from him again, thankfully. In my opinion or my "boundaries" as dashingscorpio so eloquently put it If there are not children involved, meaning children they share together On so many levels it's arrogant to enter into someone's life and expect them to "change" for you or drop their friends.
That means a person who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another. There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have.
Address the Situation Openly Don't hide the fact that you're bothered or insecure.
On the other, hand, did they break up just last month? Did they break up because of you? Take Some Time to Think and Cool Down Even if you find information that you don't like while probing your boyfriend about the situation, take some time to be by yourself and think about what's going on. Ask to Meet His Ex If his ex really is just a friend, your boyfriend should have no problem introducing you. If your boyfriend keeps bringing up his ex, that could be a sign he still has feelings for them.
Even if he's mad at his ex and complains, the fact that they're on his mind is a red flag. He's active in his ex's social media. If you're over somebody you don't like everything they post. It's another sign that the ex is on his mind. He uses his ex's name by mistake. If he calls you by his ex's name once, maybe let it slide.
If it happens again, time to wonder if he hasn't moved on. He compares you to his ex. And also a sign he's still into his ex. He won't introduce you to friends he has in common with his ex. If he won't introduce you to friends who know his ex, it may be because he doesn't want the old relationship to be over. Here's what you should do.
Ask him what's going on. What does his ex mean to him? Tell him you need his help being comfortable with their friendship if you're sure that's what it is. If he admits he has unresolved feelings for his ex, then you need to decide if you still want to be in the relationship.
Hear him out and take some time to think things over. There really are two possible situations here: He is still talking with his ex and there is no possibility that they will rekindle their relationship. He is still talking to his ex and it's possible they may get back together. He's just friends with her. It's possible that he just likes the other women he has dated and that there's no hanky-panky. They broke up recently and still have stuff to work out. In this scenario, there's a pretty good chance that he might be into her romantically.
He was friends with her for a long time and they have other friends in common. Lots of shared history but no romance. He was the one who got dumped and still carries a torch for her. What did you do? I have, and I just secretly suffered without saying anything. I have, and I gave him an ultimatum.
I have, and it didn't bother me. I've never been in that situation. The Ex Factor Do you think it's acceptable for someone to still talk to their ex when in a new relationship? No, it's never acceptable. It depends on whether they are still in love with their ex. Questions must be on-topic, written with proper grammar usage, and understandable to a wide audience.
Do you think it is acceptable for someone to talk to their ex every day? The frequency doesn't matter so much as the intention. My boyfriend is always communicating with his ex, even though I forbid him. What should I do?
What to Do When Your Boyfriend Still Talks to His Ex
Do you think my boyfriend should get mad if I block an ex on his phone? You mean, if you go on his phone and block an ex of his, without his permission? What do I do if my boyfriend's ex messages him to catch up and he responds? Why is my boyfriends' ex insisting on talking to him on a video call? Hai my friends I'm totally confused please help me I just met this guy eight months now but I have failed to know what he really wants because he says he loves me and he does everything for me but then he still talks and meets his exs he has more than 5 and he is still in touch with them One day I asked him about it and he told me that they are just friends but I feel insecure This is the first guy I have loved but what he does really hurts me I need your help.
If a third person can so easily come between you and your guy, you probably didn't have as good a relationship as you believed. If he comments on the 'drama' you've created, remind him the drama is all his. Yes No I need help Questions and Answers My boyfriend gets mad quite easily when we're discussing his ex-wife. During our conversations, he has mentioned his current situation- that he doesn't have a proper job, unlike before when he earned a lot of money and could properly take care of his wife. He feels sorry for me because his situation is so different from the past.
Telling him that's why he is easily angered when talking about his ex-wife. He told me that even if I left him, he would never go back to his ex-wife. I think it was caused by: I think that he's still in love with his ex. Yes No I need help Just stop bringing up his ex-wife. She is not in the picture and even though his financial circumstances have changed. The more you bring her up, the more damage you cause to your relationship. You would be angry and hurt if you felt he was comparing you to her all the time but he is not. Encourage him to resurrect his career but do so in a manner that does not bring up his past life.
Yes No I need help Hi, what do I do with my new partner and his contact with his ex wife not ex as yet? Your article has been very helpful answering some questions. I have been seeing a man for 9 months, his wife has her first affair 4 years ago but he 'would have walked to the end of the earth' his words to save the marriage of 25 years. She eventually ended it, and 2 months after he started dating me. I am now starting to feel that he is not in fact over her and I am the 'stand in' or 'rebound'. He said he will always stay friends with her.
They still have the same friends, he goes out and about with her family, and she asks me all the time we have never met. Still, friends on Facebook and she regularly post memories of the 2 of them. Every single conversation there is a mention of her, he does not compare me to her, but I have figured it out that they speak almost daily, if not speak then text. I have brought this up and he says 'she says we will never get back together'. I don't get a straight answer about his feelings towards her..
My question; I think I know the answer, do I wait until all the financial side has been settled in the hope this will change things? Or am I kidding myself? He is a great guy, but I think he is hung up on her, and she treats him horribly. Do I just end it?. Giving him space and time Listening to him, any arguments with her, and conversation he has had with her.
Yes No I need help He started dating you fairly fast after the end of his year marriage.studio.bluetangent.org/mofo-mujeres-buscando.php
He’s Not Over His Ex, Should You Keep Seeing Him?
You can't expect him to drop all mention of her when this is all he has known for the last 25 years. It is tough to determine if you are just a rebound. I would say you are more of a comfort to him during this time which might grow to something more. Just keep in mind that you are going to hear a lot about his ex because she is still in his social circle and a part of his life. With more time in your current relationship, he should begin to distance himself.
Actually, I am the ex-girlfriend, he broke up with me and was seeing her before he broke up with me. He has not told her. I'm the recent ex-girlfriend. Found out that he is with the "co-worker" that he told me was "just a friend" and she is now his girlfriend. Yes No I need help He is avoiding coming to get his Christmas presents which he has said he set a day but came the day before when I had other plans.
Then told me he has a new girlfriend and wanted to know if I still wanted to see him on Thursday -which is tomorrow. I answered him yesterday the following: Lol- it would be nice to catch up. How did you feel when we finally talked via cell phone? Was it dreaded or felt comfortable? I enjoyed it and I got the feeling you might have too. He has not replied. Yes No I need help To summarize, and keep this within the context of the article, it seems that you are, in a round-about way asking if your boyfriend is still in love with you.
It also seems that you are assuming that he did not tell her about you, or that he was seeing both of you at the same time because he was intending to return to you.
Unfortunately, it is more likely that he was trying not to turn the new girlfriend off by making any type of reference to you. Also, nothing pops the romantic bubble of new love faster, then telling her all about your last relationship and how he was have sex with her too. Yes No I need help Here is also another conclusion to arrive at here, which is may think that he may think his relationship with you is none of her business and vice-versa.
Furthermore, some people find the idea of cheating or keeping secrets from a lover sexually exciting. Yes No I need help As for your final query, it is likely he is not coming over because he is trying to detach from you. The fact that he has lied to two women should also indicate to you that he is lying to you about liking hearing from you or wanting presents as well.
If you have tried the thirty-day no contact rule, as you say you have, and this is the result you chasing him then it is time to let it go. This appears to be a man who is in love with his new girlfriend and not his ex. Yes No I need help I am concerned my boyfriend of 12 years is reaching back to his wife? When I met my boyfriend he said he was divorced it had been 8 years after his " divorce" when I met him. Within the first year, I discovered he was legally separated and they had indeed been apart for 8 years. This has always troubled me. I pressed him and he said when we moved in together he would get a solid divorce.
Also within the 12 years, he rarely spoke with her. They have 2 boys together which he raised. Now within the last year, he speaks to her at least once a week. He is distant with me, and when I press him about it, he actually becomes angry. He has not gotten his divorce and I am perplexed. This sits very heavy on me, and he tells me I am crazy for thinking he would get back to her. Also, he updated his will, made her the executor and of course his sons are the beneficiaries as it relates to his sons I have no problem with that. But the executor part, adds to my worry. Yes No I need help Depending on the age of his children, their mother may be the executor because she is the other custodial parent.
Do not read too much into that, as it is more about legality than love. As for the divorce, he should definitely file now. Perhaps he has not feelings for her but is not motivated to make any changes, but that is not a good indicator for your relationship's future. If his children are old enough that there are no custodial issues, and financially all debts are paid off from the marriage, this should be a simple divorce. Is his name still on property that he owns jointly with his wife? Could finances prevent him from filing?
Instead of forcing the issue, nicely ask what is stopping him from filing for divorce. Let him know that you are not interrogating him but just want to understand what the reason is. Maybe he is speaking with his wife to get the divorce in process. Yes No I need help Should I marry him, we have had a long distance relationship for 7 years? I recently found paperwork that my guy has a will that was signed 3 years ago naming his ex-wife as beneficiary and her daughter.
Looking back I was dating him then and he asked me to marry him, I haven't discussed what I found and really not sure what to do. I just know I've been through a lot and I don't want to walk in the same shoes again, when you know better, you do better. Yes No I need help His ex wife is listed because she is the other custodial parent. After 7 years, you should be married and have immigration procedures started if you are from different countries. If you are from the same country, then you should be living together full time in the same location.
He has asked you to marry him and you have spent 7 years of your life waiting for him to ask you, so make a decision. He is serious about you and the relationship or he would not have asked you to marry him. Yes No I need help See more questions like this: Mam how to know that my long distance boyfriend loves his ex or not?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for so many years now and anytime we try to talk about his ex he leaves my questions unanswered. He told me never to talk about her. However, I discovered recently that he still has her contact and still stays in touch with her even on social media. They exchange pictures too. I was able to read his chats with her and what I read was annoying. He used my money to buy her stuff. So I decided to break up with him but he is still saying it was urgent that is why he did that.
He didn't even apologize but was defending himself. Well, he is the kind of guy that will let you believe him and trust him but at the end, he is someone else. I think he isn't really over his ex because anytime we talking about it, he says its nothing, then he goes back to doing the same thing Was this helpful?
Yes No I need help Do they share a child together? Because that would be the only reason to keep a connection with an ex for many years. The fact that he used your money without speaking to you about it first, is a red flag. He was more concerned about his ex's financial issue than giving you the courtesy of consultation. If you are thinking of getting back together with him, the number one negotiated rule on reconciliation should be that he stops all contact with this ex. Trust has been damaged resulting in a breakup and you both will have to attempt to rebuild that.
I heard his ex is obsessed with him, and he talks to her. She always tries and messes with him. He doesn't want to talk to her, but he has to get her brother. He doesn't do anything in the article, but they might text on hangouts or snapchat. His friend sent me messages from him and his ex. Yes No I need help His life is entangled in his ex's familial and social circles. He may not ever change this. So if you can't trust him or feel like there is a third person in the relationship, you should walk away.
His friends are showing you messages and warning you that his ex is obsessed with him. This also means that it is not just you who is concerned about your boyfriend's interactions with his ex. Take their advice and speak with your boyfriend about how you feel pushed aside for his ex. Do I take my ex back if he dumped me for his lover and now she dumped him? So I am just wondering if I am just the side woman and maybe their really having sex too and he lies about me to her and vise versa.
That is why I am hoping you will know. He always acts like the kids are the reason for him to act like we're not together. Yes No I need help Have you met his children? Because after three years, you should have met them and become a part of their lives if even a small portion. Not adding you to Facebook is another red flag. You have dated him for three years so this should no longer be a secret to his ex wife. Now that the divorce is final, there should be a standing custodial order with that divorce.
His ex can't restrict his custodial visits structure without court intervention. You need to tell him that you have spent three long years in the shadows of his life. Now that he is finally divorced, he owes it to you in terms of no longer hiding the relationship. If he still will not do that, it is time to consider breaking up with him because you will always be second to his ex wife. I have a suitor now. He's newly break-up with his ex who cheated on him. We're at that stage of getting to know each other.
I know that it's still a fresh breakup, but he told me that he has no feelings for her. That he's very in love with me already. But sometimes I get confused. There's a time that I feel he's not excited to chat with me, but when we're together he's so clingy. He's ex is always posting on Facebook like she's regretting what she did to him.
I'm so afraid that he might fall again to her and soon he will leave me dumbfounded. Please give some piece of advice. When we talk about her he gives me a sigh and tells that not that topic again. I go to a place where he and his friends are there. Maybe because the girl is still posting on Facebook. Yes No I need help Your best course of action is to put this whole relationship on hold for now because you are too insecure to handle what his ex is posting on Facebook.
The fact that what she has so much power over you and is determining how you perceive this new relationship is an indication that you don't trust him. Your best first course of action is to tell him that you can't handle what she is posting and that you are going to block them both and move forward and find a new partner. If he really does love you, he is going to block her and reassure you and then he is going to do whatever it takes to get you back. Yes No I need help How to know if he is cheating on me or lying to me?
We are in a relationship since 4 years, before me he had 4 girlfriends. We met 8 years ago but never spoken with each other. We chatted over the phone for few times, he asked me to come out. I don't know why but for some unknown reasons we came close, sometimes we used to speak after 8 months, that too, he called me maybe after his breakup.
He broke up in We got hitched after that only. I know his Facebook password so time to time I used to see his messages, at that time it was huge. He used to call her, talk with her, but she never did. Time went today only I saw his messages on Facebook. We were about to get married but I dropped the plan. They dated for 1 year and their conversation is single sided, he used to message her like hi, how are you doing, happy birthday etc.
Yes No I need help It doesn't matter whether he is cheating or not because this relationship is making so you feel so insecure that you just wrote the words "I need help. The fact that you are snooping around in his Facebook, looking for evidence that would incriminate him is evidence that you don't trust him in the first place. He should be able to reassure you that your future is in place.
If you don't want to break up with him, your next move would be to ask him to remove her from any Facebook or messaging lists. If he doesn't comply then it means he has no concern for how much this is distressing you. It's also clear that you need to see a therapist or seek professional counseling to investigate why this bad relationship has had so much power over you in the first place.
Yes No I need help What does it mean if my boyfriend keeps on telling stories about his ex's? He keeps on telling stories about his ex's. I'm so much hurt, but I didn't show that I'm in pain. I'm so sorry to hear that Chris, we sincerely hope that you'll be able to pick yourself up in time, and find happiness once more down the road.
So on Friday I met up with my ex.. We had quite a lengthy chat about a lot of stuff. We both had quite abit to drink and I was planning on staying over anyway. I was wondering if you could give me some advice on how to approach this? If you've already completed NC, the fact that she still doesn't see a future could either mean she hasn't fully let go of the negative emotions from the breakup, or that she really doesn't see a future with you at the moment although it's clear that she still has feelings for you.
You could consider replying and slowly working your way towards winning her back by giving her more space, or decide to walk away from things. Okay not looking for advice but would just like to comment that your advice worked too well! After 3 months of doing me, getting a new car, getting a new job, losing 20 lbs and looking and feeling great, my ex came back and said he was over his rebound and wanted to get back together.
We talked for about 5 days and he said he thought I deserved better than him and I was doing so great he didn't want to interrupt that - and went back to the rebound chick. Honestly it was very helpful though - made me realize that he's childish with commitment problems and I deserve better than whatever he is serving. Thanks for the advice! We're really proud of what you've achieved and we hope that these changes have made your life much better. All the best to you! My ex broke up with me. I just moved out Jan. He says she means nothing to him but yet he spends every weekend with her including Christmas and New Year's.
He said it's not cheating because he been told me he wasn't happy. Should I just forget about him? If the break up occurred prior to the start of him seeing another girl, then yes it wasn't cheating. However, if he had started seeing that person while you were still together, and even living under the same roof, he isn't worth it since he doesn't seem to understand the context of cheating or what it means to be in a relationship.
I was with this girl for about to years. It was a long distance relationship and we felt we were made for each other. She always wanted to communicate with me and she told me how much she loved me. We argued sometimes and she'll block on social media me but later come back telling me how she missed me and liked me. Just recently she told me she didn't wanna be in a relationship with me and wanted to be alone and that she doesn't like me. She wants to be just friends but I really love this girl and I want her. She doesn't text me as she used to and when I text her she doesn't reply.
It's like she doesn't care about me anymore. I did the no contact and got in touch with her, she's just been cold. If no contact did not work, you might want to think about why she may be acting this way. It may be necessary to go about no contact once more for a longer period before contacting her again. However, the alternative to that if you aren't able to cope emotionally is to be fair to yourself and consider walking away.
I really would want to walk away, take my mind off her but I love her and I'm always thinking about her. I've started the no contact again but I don't think she considers me a part of her life now. I just wanna get over with this whole thing. My boyfriend and I broke up a week ago.
We agreed to focus on improving ourselves and not date or hookup with anyone else in the 2 weeks. Well he admitted to me he went on a few dates with a girl 8th grade ex gf When he is drunk he would send me photos of them together. But we still have been talking and seeing each other frequently. But he is also still taking her out on dates and talking to her. It just hurts so much he is so quickly enjoying dates and time with another girl. It sounds like a rebound especially since you guys were together for a period of time, and he's currently going through a novel experience by dating someone new.
I encourage that you follow through with no contact, work on improving yourself, not being his emotional bolster to turn to whenever he needs someone, and give him the space to realize that he's going through a rebound. Therefore, I can say that this does work. The response actually surprised me because she immediately suggested to meet up face to face, even is she is uncertain whether it will make a difference she says, but it seems like the right thing to do.
The month of absence for me was complete hell, I was literally waiting daily to hear from her, but then wrote myself after 30 days, and received a reply. What is very strange however, is that the day after she replied "we should meet up face to face", she blocked me from her facebook until then it was all normal and visible , not unfriended me, but I can't see any posts anymore that are not public. This is strange, and I don't understand this part. I hope that meeting her in real will bring some answers, as the break was very sudden and very strange, from everything great to a sudden complete stop.
I've read on your site that it might be that some exes don't want to upset the other in case they might want to come back, but I do fear the worst scenario, that there is someone else, let's hope this is not the case. Would also be a bit soon, after 30 days In any case, whereas she said out of the blue "we will never see each other again" around new year, wanting to meet in person is progress. Now I am not strong enough to project any strong security yet, so I hope I won't be too emotional meeting her.
I know we should be all manly and have made a change, but the truth is I've been too devastated for a month to make much progress, only thinking: If you have any tips for this first meet, for which I am very nervous feels like meeting her for the first time all over again and what the block in fb linked to that means, pls let me know Hi, im 22 my ex is 23 years old. He was my fiance for two years and we have dated 7 years. We thought about getting married this year but few years was not good for us.
By the way we were waiting till marriage but still did things.. I was working because of our future, he wanted attention, and intimacy i told him we can if he wants to, but he wanted to wait, sometimes i needed attention, because he was playing games.. So i throwed my ring and told him its over. But he didnt do anything he was tired, before that he was always telling me that im the one, he dont want to lose me.
So we had a break, we wanted to start over but the thing was We've met 3 times and everything was there, we were flirting, talking, laughing but when we were talking about relashionship he was on phone smiling, i didnt show but i was jealous. But messages from him and chating was great, we were talking like we used to with romantic emojis and that he miss me..
He told me he dont want to get hurt again and that he will act like everythings perfect and will not show his feelings anymore. What I suppose to do? How do I get back with him? If you were together with him for such a long period, and he is capable of dating other people so quickly, it either goes to show that he may have lost interest in the relationship a while back hence his priorities of meeting friends and playing games over you , or he just doesn't want to deal with the negative emotions of dealing with a break up.
The new girl he's seeing is probably a rebound however, considering the time you've been with him and that's also why it may be hard for him to let go of her so soon, since it's providing for a new experience which he has not had in a long time. We dated for about 3 months before getting together for 6 months. During the dating period we were really happy together. However, as this was my first relationship, I didn't maintain it well enough to make her happy each day like texting her as and when I'm free.
We had an arguement and it got worse after. All she wanted was an apology, my time and attention. I regreted all that has happened. Soon after she initiated to break up as I didn't try to understand and solve the issue within the two weeks. Two months after, I realize she is dating someone new, much older but he seems to be experienced enough to text her every single day including morning and night. I'm now on NC and not sure what I can do next. It is really hard to initiate conversation with her as she is a loyal girl who sticks to a guy at a time.
She will most likely ignore my message if I text. What else can I do? In this scenario, it could either lead to 2 outcomes. The first is that if the relationship you shared was meaningful, there's a likelihood that the guy she's dating now is a rebound and would eventually end. The second and worse of the two outcomes is that she has moved on to something better and isn't going to look back, because it was your first relationship and didn't maintain it well enough it's no fault of yours.
Either way, there's not much you could do right now, except pick yourself up, and focus on NC as well as moving on. If an opportunity presents itself again in the future and you feel something for her still, perhaps you could give it another shot then. How long do the rebound relationship usually last? What if the new guy is really experienced and treats her well enough of the things I didn't do? Is she still feeling emotional about our relationship or that she has moved on to the new guy? I only managed to understand the whole stituation after the break up and it gave me a lesson learnt.
I really do hope that I can get her back together and do the right things for her to be happy. It is a torture to be waiting and thinking each day when will they eventually end. A word of advice would be to not sit around and wait for them to eventually end, because there's really no telling when it will end.
In this particular situation, I hate to break it to you, but he may or may not actually be a rebound considering that you had no prior relationship experience, so there was a limit to the impression you may have left her with. I suggest focusing on picking yourself up, and even trying to move on for the time being - you might want to consider dating again in the near future to gain more exposure as well. If she happens to break up with her current partner in the future, and an opportunity presents itself, you could always consider your options then.
I commented like a month back about my ex breaking up with me and moving onto a girl who is He is 24 and I am So it's been 3 days past the 30 day NC period and still haven't started any contact again. I didn't do so well in the no contact period. I was motivated in the beginning and still am, have been going consistently to the gym, reading motivational books, but have days where I am crying for hours. Now they are becoming more often. Also 2 weeks ago, my ex who blocked me on everything did this thing where he followed and unfollowed me on snapchat after an hour and then the next day followed me didn't follow back at all but then posted pics with her that night on instagram.
I also found out he unblocked me on all social media and even my number but made his instagram private. I'm getting too into details but I thought it was weird because I know he blocks contact with exes and apparently he's so happy with her. They haven't posted anything on instagram since that post like 2 weeks ago but all the posts are still there.
I'm still confused and really let this get to me in the 2nd half of NC. I'm also really hesitant about contacting again. Do you have any advice on where to go from here? Social media has the tendency to present a very false state of truth, where people post pictures or snaps of being happy or traveling the world, but actually have many issues they do not show.
Just like how you upload snaps of going out with your friends and looking happy, your ex might be doing the same. However, if he's seen all your posts and unfollowed you after, he might be curious to see how you've been doing, and may even start to feel confused. That being said, he isn't about to just break up with his girlfriend immediately and jump back into your arms.
Time is still needed for events to unfold, but for the meantime, you should focus on why you've been feeling worse lately and crying more, instead of waiting for him or thinking too much about the situation. The likelihood of her being in a rebound relationship is dependent on the type and length of relationship the both of you shared. If things were serious and there was a meaningful relationship, it's possible that she is going through a rebound. But you also have to consider why the relationship didn't work out in the first place, because that would explain further how she feels about you.
I would recommend letting her relationship run it's course, and you shouldn't interfere with it, as it may push her further away. In the meantime, focus on the potential issues you had as a partner, and work on improving yourself. That way, when you decide to contact her again, at least there's a significant change that she may notice from you, which further sparks interest.
My ex boyfriend and I dated for nearly 5 years. I was 18 when we first started dating. We had an amazing relationship, we both knew we wanted to be together as we discussed marriage and kids. However, over 6 months ago my feelings seemed to have changed for him, I told him about it and broke up with him We were great for 2 months however his family decided to cut me off because of what I did and treated me poorly. I lost all my confidence, I lost direction and I just knew he could do better than me. So I broke it off with him again and this was just over 4 months ago. He was devastated, he tried so hard to get me back in the first month as he told me I was the love of his life.
However, when we met up one night he told me he has slept with someone at his work and basically his feelings changed towards me. I stopped contact for 7 weeks. I heard nothing from him, so I contacted him because I found out he lost his job. We started talking again, we went for lunch and he was shocked in how well I was looking so he was messaging me a lot to hang etc He told me he missed me. He kept snap chatting me since then and I found out he was seeing the same girl he slept with from work through mutual friends as he was taking her to coffee shops and shops my friends work at.
I asked him about it and he said he has no feelings for her at all and that hanging with someone because he was miserable made it easier. He is constantly with her and they were together NYE. I decided to cut him off social media along with his family. What do you think this relationship is? Because prior to cutting him off he was sill occasionally talking to me and always snap chatting me. As he told me that if I stop talking to him there would be no hope for us in the future. I feel so confused. It could very well be a rebound relationship as he doesn't want to personally deal with the emotions of losing you, and decides to take comfort in someone else.
If he is cutting you off right now, you shouldn't linger around and wait for him as you've tried reaching out once only for him to sleep with you then go back to dating the other girl. Hi I broke up with my ex on 20th December and i was really confused The thing is that i was talking to this guy, that i thought i liked, on a social media ig and even tho my ex told me he deleted my account from his phone, he lied and a few days ago, he saw the conversation and got angry and hurt But soon after i saw him doing the same thing, even worse.
He was flirting with another girl and he was acting the way he used to act with me when we were together. Right now, the best thing to do is to give him some space to cool off. He is acting this way clearly because he is upset at your actions and wants revenge. Never let that get the better of you, and just let him know that you're sorry once more before applying no contact.
I'm 19 years old, my ex is My ex-girlfriend and I were together for 2,5 years. We broke up 6 months ago. One month after our break-up we kissed again at a festival and it was quite obvious that she wanted to get together again. She wasn't drunk when we spoke about this. However I wanted to slow things down a little bit just to give us some time to think about everything. Right after the break-up I wasn't really panicking or anything just because my friends and family took me out a lot and there was never a really a moment for me to actually think about what had happened.
The main reason why we broke up it was a mutual decision was the fact that I didn't give her much attention near the end of our relationship, as I was in my first year at university and I was quite concentrated on my work. I didn't know well how to manage my time, so we sort of lost connection.
About 4 months after we broke up we started talking again and I realised that I still loved her. However, she told she had had sex with someone who then turned out to be a player. We met a couple of times before I found this article and I told her that I still loved her. She said that she was over our relationship. A couple of days ago, a friend of mine told me that she really didn't want to have a relationship with me anymore and that she was interested in someone else who apparently doesn't even look at her in real life.
I've been doing the NC-rule for about 25 days now. One day I accidently bumped into her at the supermarket and I didn't say anything to her so now she thinks I'm mad at her which a part of me is. How should I consider the guy she's interested in and should I stick to the regular 5 step-plan from this website?
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At this point, you should take what things are happening at face value. You could always start off as friends first after your NC and just slowly build a connection back up if you genuinely still want her back. But never put pressure on her to make a choice since right now, both of you are not together. We got to know each other really well, had common goals, and were even talking about marriage since that was very important to him I was hesitant because he would talk about getting married 2 years from now which was early for me. We're both in school so things started to get stressful a month in.
We fought once a week then multiple times a week, all on text. We started to focus on positive things less, he said he didn't feel connected as much but everytime we saw each other, it's like we hadn't fought. It felt like he really wanted to make it work. He did mention this classmate he worked on a project with and went to her apartment.
Both his exes cheated on him so he had trust issues so he said he would never do that to me or go behind my back. I mentioned a guy my friend was trying to set me up with to help me move on I told my ex I wasn't interested but he didn't like it. Do you have any advice? It seems like he's trying to get back at you, and this girl is probably a rebound that was emotionally there for him during the times you guys were fighting. If he really has nothing in common with her, they would not last. Also, based on what you told me and how fast they jumped right into things, it would seem like she's most likely a rebound.
Focus on your life, improve yourself, even go on other dates. If you guys shared a meaningful relationship, it's unlikely that he would get over you so quickly. I'm just so confused. He just didn't seem like the type of guy to do that, especially since he would say I'd never do that to anyone since both of his exes cheated. But it was only like 2. I don't get it. I'm nervous because he started saying things like it wasn't love for us even though he thought it was and that we weren't compatible. In the months of getting to know each other he would say we were a team and we had a lot in common.
Hi, I posted earlier, but I don't think it actually posted bc I can't find my post now. He said he loved me, believes he is in love with me, and that I'm his best and only friend but I deserve everything I want and he doesn't think he's the guy to give it to me. I'm the longest relationship he's had as an adult, the only woman he's said I love you to, and the only woman he's lived with. He has not had a serious adult relationship. However, 4 days later he was sleeping with a woman from work who is the exact opposite of everything he's ever said he's wanted.
She 37, mother of 4, divorced, uneducated, smoker, and a truck driver at the same dead end job he's at and hates so much and trying to leave when he's done with his master's. He's explained that she's nice and he's not just sleeping with her. That he likes her despite the ridicule he receives at work. He told me he prefers me over her and that she doesn't even come close to me so I am not to compare myself.
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We agreed I would move out in June, so he has since moved out and he found a rental close to her. She is already posting on facebook that he's the one. Meanwhile, every time he comes to maintain the property he tells her that I'm not here and he proceeds to hug, kiss, and spank me playfully. I told him if he really liked her then he would be honest with her. He agreed that he doesn't want to be that kind of man for anyone.
It sounds like he got a case of cold feet, but I'm not sure. He seems to be doing everything in his power to make it work with this woman who is so obviously a poor replacement of me but also an excellent distraction from him having to deal with our breakup and lovers and best friends. In fact, he still admits that I'm still his best friend and he can't talk to her as openly and without defense as he can with me. I don't want to be the other woman in his relationship, but is this a rebound even if he's trying to do everything right and take her wishes into consideration?
Also, am I being wishful in assuming he got a case of cold feet? Do I proceed with no contact? I've been doing my part in bettering myself. Every time he sees me he tells me how great I look and that our breakup suites me. I've told him I went on a date to which he showed jealousy and admitted it but then shook it off saying he can't really say anything considering what he's doing himself.
Is there hope for us? There might be hope for you, but not right now. If that relationship he's in is a rebound which it sounds like , then you should not continue to stay hopeful in one place but at least move on a little, so that you don't constantly think of it. I would suggest proceeding with NC and just in general, moving on with life for the moment. I appreciate the feedback and I'll continue to work on myself. Actually, I'm feeling better about myself everyday. It wasn't a bad breakup and we both remained respectful and civil with each other. There's love there, I'm just not sure whay kind of love it is, romantic or friendship.
But I'll move forward as though it's done and let him figure out what he wants in life. Meanwhile, I'll just get back to being who I was before I dedicated my life to him and his well - being. Hey Ryan, I was with my ex for 9 years. He proposed in may and things seemed fine. Maybe a little stressful with wedding planning and me being in school and working full time. Then around mid october out of nowhere he states he's unhappy and he's been unhappy for a while and that I treated him like shit for 9 years.
I know I can be snappy at times and I begged for the first couple of weeks to give me another chance and to work on each other but he would just say that he gave me so many chances. In the back of my mind I always had this gut feeling about this girl that he was working with. Since last november I told him I felt uncomfortable with him being friends with her. Last December someone actually made a fake facebook account and messaged me how close the two of them are and how they hung out before school all the time. When I confronted him he said some crazy person at school was starting rumors.
Fast forward to the present I found out that they have been talking and he went to her for our relationship advice and they both got feelings for each other.
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I caught him at her house and she met his family 3 weeks after we broke up. I know this has been going on for a while so I am unsure if this is still considered a rebound. He lied to me and his friends about the girl and is still trying to hide her. He told everyone that he and the girl were going on a break to prove to everyone that he did not break up with me for her.
Over the next month and a half I have been seeing a therapist and things seemed to be going okay with my ex and I. He would always be the one to initiate the conversations and we went shopping, dinner, and the movies a couple of weeks ago and things seemed great. He even texted me how much fun he had. He just keeps saying he is scared to give me another chance and doesn't think that I will change. He would go back and forth every couple of weeks. An example, I was in Miami one weekend and he was constantly texting me and his friends telling us that he wanted to work it out.
As soon as I told him if we are trying to work on each other then he would eventually have to find work somewhere else he flipped out saying I was trying to control him. He obviously still wants to be with this girl and is now using the excuse "I'm working on myself. I have not spoken to him in a week. I am just afraid that not talking to him is bringing him and the girl closer together.
Do I continue with the no contact and is this girl a rebound or not? He would think you aren't capable of change because you're still in relatively constant contact with him and just like it's hard to tell if someone lost weight if you saw them everyday, this works out to be the same - change can't be seen clearly if you see the person or talk to the person constantly. I suggest proceeding with NC to actually work on any issues you had to become an improved version of yourself first.
This girl could be a rebound but it really depends on the situation was he cheating all this while or only started dating her after the breakup. Honestly, in this situation, you might want to mentally prepare to walk away because if he can't even be honest towards you or his friends about this, you might find it hard to trust him on future occasions if you guys were to work things out. I just think he's using the excuse I won't change because of the girl. Clearly if the girl wasn't in the picture we would be able to work on our relationship and you would think he would want to give me another chance because he did propose.
I have not spoken to him in 2 weeks other then just saying merry christmas yesterday. I do not think he physically cheated while we were together but he did emotionally cheat. He was talking to her over the past year when I asked him not to and he would lie about it. He apparently saw her in the summer with another coworker and I had no idea and her number was changed in his phone.
He caught feelings for the girl and other then stepping back from the situation he kept going on with it. I had all his passwords so I could see what he was doing with the girl and that is how I caught him because he was lying to everyone about her.
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Now I really don't know what is going on because I'm kind of starting to not care. I still want to keep up with the no contact and see how that goes. Hiii okay I need some advice So I dated my boyfriend for 3 years, we moved in together at the beginning of this year.
We had a difficult relationship - I cheated once, he cheated a few times. We broke up for a week or so last year and then we got back together and decided to start fresh, no more cheating or anything we were gonna be serious. Then we moved in together a few months later. He has used this as leverage and an excuse to cheat throughout our relationship. About a month ago he told me he cheated again - we broke up. For a week I had to live there and he was so cold, didn't talk to me or see me.
He was plain rude. Then I moved out and he came running back, saying he regretted everything and he still loves me and wants to work it out. I went away on a trip for 3 days, when I came back he told me he doesn't know what he wants and he has met someone else who makes him really happy. It's been a month and I have not talked to him since.
So far, he has proceeded to delete me and all my friends on Facebook, but he's still making pointed posts like "it sucks when you give your all to someone and they don't do the same". This morning, I discovered he made a post on instagram with This new girl and captioned it "I have never been so happy, it keeps getting better and better with you". He had been following me on instagram up until this morning - so he made a post and then unfollowed me. I don't necessarily know if I want to get back with him, he has really hurt me and I don't know if were right for each other. However I still really love him and im hurt that he possibly moved on so fast.
Does this sound like rebound behavior? If I decide I want to be with him and try to get him back, what steps should I take? Your advice is appreciated!! What you're describing sounds a lot like rebound behavior and isn't something you should be too worried about. If he could latch on and run back to you the moment you walked away, and yet latch onto someone new as easily when you're gone for a couple of days, it doesn't sound like it's a person you can feel secure with for a prolonged period.
That's just my opinion and if you genuinely want him back as opposed to moving on , it's something you need to be mentally prepared for. In the meantime, I would suggest applying No Contact and first focus on picking yourself up before deciding again what you should do. Hi Im Mary and i am quite confused of what this guy whom unfortunately I love so much wants.
We are in a long distance relationship and he left me last September telling me that he cannot bear the distance anymore and that he needs a gf that is physically available. It was the worst heartbreak I experienced in my whole life and it left me shattered. Even after the breakup we still communicate as he always wants to be friends.
After a month I felt tired and all I know was that he finally found someone else. I didnt contact him for almost a month but now he is coming back to mylife again saying that he misses me still. Now i am confused if this guy is even worth loving for after all what he did or is he just trying to fool me around again knowing how much I loved him so hes taking an advantage? It could be either reasons. You know him better than anyone else. I would suggest that if he could walk away once over lack of physical contact, as long as nothing changes aka you moving to be with him or vice versa , it could easily happen a second time.
Be fair to yourself and think this through on whether it's worth it. I broke up with my girlfriend in August, after dating for 7 months. She pleaded to have me back shortly in September, and after thinking about it for awhile, I regretted it and wanted her back. It's normal that people seek comfort in others when they're upset, which is why rebounds exist in the first place. Right now she may be feeling conflicted as opposed to directly jumping into the rebound because you're still in the picture and on relatively good terms with her.
If you're certain that you can make the relationship work and not go back into the same cycle as before, I don't think you should treat the guy as a rebound where you have to back off and not interfere but rather as fair competition where you're trying to win her heart once again. Three months ago, my exboyfriend and I broke up. We were together for a year in a long distance relationship. I don't even know who broke up with who.
I was feeling unloved and I told him. I thought we would try to work things out. However, he took it as if I was saying he was wrong or that it wasn't working. He said he was going to answer me but he didn't. After some texts and after time of not talking, he suddenly met someone else when he was travelling. Everything between them went so fast. He wrote about having a soul connection and about true love in a few days after meeting each other.
I saw their interaction through social media and I could see how fast everything has been moving between them with me everything went pretty slow and it took him forever to tell me he loved me and things like that. She is nothing like me, she is totally different both physically and in interests.
She is almost 20 years younger than him. I feel they are really into each other and I am sad because I thought he would think things through and get back together. The confusing part is that after he came back from his trip and of meeting her , he started texting me. We talked and he seemed to be sad. He told me "I have been ok" instead of great as he looks on his pictures. He has been texting me, to say nothing important. I don't understand why. Is it because he felt guilty?
Is he trying to be friends? Also, after we talked for the first time in a long time, I posted a picture with a guy I met. I didn't have any intentions of doing so, but that day he sent me a super friendly text. I don't know if it was because now it seems that each one of us moved one or could it be that he is still interested? Why does he want to start and keep talking? He could be confused and undecided on what he wants at the moment, and the other girl could be a rebound that sparked while he was trying to cope with your 'breakup' seeing how you said that she was nothing like you.
It could be that he keeps wanting to talk to you so as to not let you go, since his spark with the rebound may have been a holiday romance. Hi, so i was dating this girl for about 2 years and we loved each other very much. We spent everyday we could together.